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Why You Should Text Your Ex "Thank You" Right Now (Seriously)

Why You Should Text Your Ex “Thank You” Right Now (Seriously)

You know that feeling when you break up with someone and all you can think about is how much they suck? How they lied to you, cheated on you, or ghosted you? How they wasted your time, money, and energy? How they ruined your life?

Yeah, many of us have been there.

But what if we told you that there’s a better way to deal with your ex than hating them, blocking them, or stalking them on social media? What if we told you that there’s a simple text message that can change everything for the better?

No, it’s not “I miss you” or “I want you back” or “I’m sorry”. It’s not even “I hope you’re happy” or “I wish you the best”.

It’s “Thank you”.

Wait, what? Thank my ex? For what? For breaking my heart? For making me cry? For making me feel like crap?

Yes, yes, and yes.

Before you close this tab, listen up. No one is saying that you should thank your ex for hurting you, or that you should pretend that everything was perfect. We’re saying that you should thank your ex for the good things that you experienced together, and the lessons that you learned from the relationship.

Here’s why:

  • Thanking Your Ex Can Help You Heal

When you focus on the positive aspects of your past relationship, you can reduce the negative emotions that you feel towards your ex, such as anger, sadness, or regret. You can also forgive yourself and your ex for the mistakes that you made, and let go of the pain that you have been carrying. As the Bible says, “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you” (Ephesians 4:32, NIV).

Think about it: how can you move on with your life if you’re still holding a grudge against your ex? How can you be happy if you’re still bitter and resentful? How can you love again if you’re still afraid and hurt?

You can’t.

That’s why you need to thank your ex, and free yourself from the past. You need to accept what happened, and appreciate what you gained. You need to heal your heart, and make room for new love.

  • Thanking Your Ex Can Help You Grow

Every relationship, whether good or bad, teaches us something about ourselves and others. By thanking your ex, you can recognize the valuable lessons that you learned from them, and apply them to your future relationships. You can also appreciate the strengths and weaknesses that you have, and work on improving yourself. As the Bible says, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28, NIV).

Think about it: how can you grow as a person if you’re still stuck in the past? How can you learn from your mistakes if you’re still blaming your ex? How can you improve yourself if you’re still insecure and unhappy?

You can’t.

That’s why you need to thank your ex, and embrace the present. You need to acknowledge what you learned, and use it to your advantage. You need to grow as a person, and become the best version of yourself.

  • Thanking Your Ex Can Help You Bless Them

When you thank your ex, you’re not only doing yourself a favor, but also them. You’re showing them that you respect and care for them as a person, even if you’re no longer together. You’re also wishing them well, and praying for their happiness and success. By doing this, you’re following the commandment of Jesus, who said, “But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you” (Matthew 5:44, NIV).

Think about it: how can you be a good Christian if you’re still hating your ex? How can you show God’s love if you’re still spiteful and vengeful? How can you bless others if you’re still selfish and bitter?

You can’t.

That’s why you need to thank your ex, and show them some grace. You need to let go of any hatred, and replace it with love. You need to bless your ex, and glorify God.

How to Thank Your Ex

Now that you know why you should thank your ex, you might be wondering how to do it. Here are some tips to help you:

  • Be sincere: Don’t thank your ex just for the sake of it, or to manipulate them into something. Thank your ex from the bottom of your heart, and mean every word that you say. Be honest and genuine, and avoid any sarcasm or bitterness.
  • Be specific: Don’t just say, “Thank you for everything.” Instead, mention the specific things that you are grateful for, such as the memories that you shared, the support that they gave you, or the qualities that they have. This will make your gratitude more meaningful and personal.
  • Be respectful: Don’t use this opportunity to criticize or blame your ex, or to bring up old issues or conflicts. Respect their feelings and boundaries, and don’t expect anything in return. Remember that this is not about getting back together, but about expressing gratitude and closure.
  • Be appropriate: Choose the right time and method to thank your ex. Depending on your situation, you might want to do it in person, over the phone, or through a text message. Make sure that your ex is comfortable and willing to hear from you, and that you’re not intruding on their privacy or current relationship.


Thanking your ex might seem like a strange or difficult thing to do, but it can have a powerful impact on your life and theirs. By expressing gratitude to your ex, you can heal your wounds, grow as a person, and bless them with your kindness. You can also honor God, who calls us to be thankful in all circumstances, and to love one another as He loves us. As the Bible says, “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus” (1 Thessalonians 5:18, NIV).

So, what are you waiting for? Text your ex, and say thank you. You might be surprised by how much it can change everything.

This season of celebration and love will be a perfect time to show gratitude not only to God but the people around you. In case you feel there’s nothing to be grateful, this sermon on thanksgiving is everything you need. Click here to watch the sermon.

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